May Not Be Worth It Dear Neil: I’ve been involved in a relationship with a woman who is 25, and has a three year old daughter. In the span of our relationship she has flip-flopped back and forth on a decision of whether to be in a relationship with me. Today she could be talking […]
Running Away From a Relationship You Want
Dear Neil: Why would a man turn down everything he says he wants? The first time we met, he said he thought I was pretty, interesting, and sexy. We instantly hit it off, had a great time together and things started progressing very quickly. Our connection was magnificently intimate from the beginning. There was hope, […]
Feeling Defeated? Here’s What You Can Do
Do you sometimes feel completely defeated? Perhaps you feel that things are outrageously hard and you’d like to just give up, or perhaps you feel it’s just too hard to (choose one): find a love relationship with someone you’re attracted to and who is attracted back, get along, like the person you’re married or committed […]
Why Does My Girlfriend Keep Leaving Me For Other Men?
Dear Neil: Me and my ex-girlfriend have been in an on and off again relationship for the last eight years. We had a child about a year after we met. She also had an on and off relationship with a boyfriend before (and during her relationship with) me. When I was getting ready to propose […]
Husband Can’t Reach Orgasm
Dear Neil: I am a 68 year-young woman, married for one year after being widowed for many years. We are very active sexually, but the only issue we have is that my husband can’t reach orgasm. The desire and excitement is present, but the body seems unwilling to cooperate. He is 70. He seems blocked […]
Handling Criticism Better
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. What’s the worst thing anyone could say aokut you? Of the myriad of potential answers you might come up with, let’s say that your spouse or lover says that you’re insecure. Instead of getting angry or defensive, let’s say you were open to exploring whether the […]
Approval Seeking
booNote: This is the first of a two part series. A child is happily absorbed in the playground. All of sudden, she surprises herself by perfectly executing a back flip. Kids around her, whom she’d hardly noticed, are gathering around her, clapping. She repeats the flip to see if they’ll clap again. The girl isn’t […]
Should I Live with Photos of Widower’s Departed Spouse?
Dear Neil: I am crazy in love with a wonderful man—a widower. His late wife passed away eight years ago after 23 years of marriage. We have been engaged for over a year now. He has two grown sons, has another two sons (ages 10 and 12) at home and a special needs son that […]
Having Sex When You’re Not in the Mood
Dear Neil: I understand that being in a relationship often involves doing things for the other person that you may not particularly like. Examples are things like dishes that someone else dirties, giving a massage when you’re tired, spending Christmas with the mother-in-law, etc. I also understand that this extends to sex, even if you’re […]
Quiz: The Loss of Sexual Desire
Dear Neil: I am a 38 year-old married mother of two, and I have an issue with the total loss of my sexual desire. We have a good marriage. I love my husband dearly and I am very attracted to him. I don’t know what is wrong with me. I have no desire to have […]