Dear Neil: Is there a way to measure how resilient a person is? My girlfriend walked out on me the same week I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. I’m handling things okay, but it got me to wondering if being resilient is something I could cultivate or develop. Any ideas? Holding On In San Francisco […]
Can I Win Back The Lady Who Has Rejected Me?
Dear Neil: I’m 28, and I fell in love with a 42-year-old woman. She broke up with me after 6 months, saying it’s not healthy for a woman her age to be having a relationship with a man my age. I’m not agreeing with her reasons to break up, and I know she loves me. […]
A Relationship Requires Two
Dear Neil: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two months, and I’m having a very hard time moving on. About a month into our relationship, while he was drunk, he told me that he was paranoid about getting close to me because he was afraid I would break up with him. During our […]
Can I Stop My Wife From Rejecting Me?
Dear Neil: I have been married for 32 years. My wife wants nothing to do with me, and for the past two years has been sleeping in another room. She gives me the silent treatment until I can’t stand it anymore. It’s been more than a year since we’ve had any intimacy or have even […]
Betrayal May be Too Hard to Overcome
Dear Neil: I’ve been in an on-and-off again relationship with a man I have two children with. I love him dearly and I want to be with him. But he wants to leave in order to determine what he really wants from our relationship and how he feels about me. He’s having a hard time […]
When Somebody Leaves But Fails To Tell You
Dear Neil: I am at the end of my rope. I have been with my wife for almost 15 years (married for three years). Several years ago she cheated on me. She denied it but I found out that she was lying. I went overseas to work, she started the affair again and added another […]
My Boyfriend’s Rejection is Confusing
Dear Neil: I’ve been in a relationship with someone for three years. My boyfriend says that I don’t deserve to be with someone who is so up and down with his feelings. He says he loves me and is in love with me, but can’t stay because he doesn’t deserve me. He still wants me […]
How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back?
Dear Neil: I am 26 years-old and for the first time in my life I have felt true love with another. But he has broken up with me and left me an emotional and financial train wreck of a mess. The problem is that he compared me to his ex, and accused me of doing […]
Why Are Men Not Romantically Interested in Me?
Dear Neil: I am 32 years-old and I have never been married—and I haven’t had a real long-term relationship in nine years. Guys I date tell me I’m like one of the guys because I like watching sports and don’t mind just hanging out with friends. They tell me that any man would be lucky […]
Why Did Woman Reject Open-Hearted Man?
Dear Neil: Women claim to want a man who is open-hearted and comfortable with intimacy—a man who can show his more vulnerable emotions. But when I have offered my heart and vulnerability to a woman, I have most frequently been judged, rejected or dumped. In my most recent relationship, I not only gave her my […]