Dear Neil: I am in a four month relationship with a man who has proposed to me. We are both 26. I want to get married and have a baby, and I am leaning toward accepting his proposal. But I am getting a lot of flack from my parents and others in my family saying […]
Dear Neil: I can feel my husband’s anger, although he doesn’t say anything to me about it. But he is cold and dismissing toward me, has ceased to be affectionate and spends very little time with me alone. I know something is disturbing him, but I am clueless as to what. We have been together […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one The following are a continuation of the guidelines for how to decide which of your issues are deal breakers—and when you’d be better off leaving a relationship instead of staying in it: When you feel poorly treated. Poor treatment can come in many […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: You usually write about how people can stay together and work out their differences. But what about when it may not be in your self-interest to stay, or when you have an extremely unresponsive, uncaring or hurtful partner? Could […]
One of the sadder experiences I have encountered as a marriage and family therapist is when a couple comes into my office with one person speaking of the relationship being over and wanting to move on—while the other person frantically declares that s/he is willing to do anything to save the relationship—and begs for one […]
Dear Neil: Your recent letter to “Tortured in Wyoming” has stuck in my mind in a disturbing way. My main concern is that all the questions you asked him to consider seemed based around the central premise of what will make him happy. For instance, you asked him if there was a good chance he […]
Dear Neil: It seems the differences between men and women have been shattering my hopes and dreams as of late. My boyfriend (well, no longer) and I are both 33, we have been together for almost two years, having mounds of fun together. But all talks about the future have always stemmed from me, and […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one If you are caught between being in a relationship with two different people, and are attempting to choose which one you want to commit to, here are more questions which are designed to assist you in coming to a choice. These […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: I need help. I am in a 22 year affectionless, sexless and loveless marriage with my high school sweetheart. I am also in a three year extremely passionate relationship with another woman who I am deeply in love with. […]
Dear Neil: I would like to cure my narcissism, but I don’t know where to start. Can you help? Unsure of What To Do Dear Unsure: Let’s say your intimate partner says she isn’t feeling valued […]