Dear Neil: I am a 6-year widow dating a 4-year widower. We both had long-term marriages. We have been dating for 18 months and have been talking about moving into a rental together. But his house is like a museum to his deceased wife; every corner and shelf is filled with her knickknacks and collections. […]
Why Some People Avoid Attachment
Dear Neil: I have recently realized that after a number of failed relationships with men that I have what’s called “avoidant attachment style.” It’s been a year since I was seeing a lovely and kind man. We had mutual attraction and good chemistry. However, as we got closer, I would feel overwhelmed and smothered, with […]
My Boyfriend Isn’t Proposing. What Should I Do?
Dear Neil: The man who I love broke up with me after a 4 year romance. Now, months later, he wants us to rekindle our relationship, but he has not suggested marriage. I’m in my 30’s and I’m wanting to start a family—and I’m unwilling to be strung along forever. Do you have any suggestions […]
When Your Boyfriend is Scared of Love
Dear Neil: I have known this man since middle school, he was my best friend. But in the last year, we fell in love. Things were well, until one day he said he needed space. He said he has never loved someone like he loves me, and that it scares the hell out of him. […]
Quiz: Are You Afraid of Commitment?
Note: This is first of a three-part series. Dear Neil: I am a 43-year-old educated, attractive and professional woman who has never been married. I have left most of the men I have been involved with through the years. Is there a way to tell if I am afraid of commitment? Anxious In Portland Dear […]
If You Don’t Know Where Your Boyfriend Stands, Ask Him
Dear Neil: I’m in a year and a half relationship with a guy from Saudi Arabia. We are both professionals, but he is 26 and never married, and I am 37, divorced and I have 2 kids. Because we are Muslims, our relationship is not allowed, and his parents don’t know about us at all. […]
A Relationship Requires Two
Dear Neil: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. We had a minor disagreement, and he then ignored me for 2 weeks. He is saying that he has an emotional block and does not have the same love for me that I have for him. I’m confused and scared. I love him and don’t […]
Half-Hearted Man has Never Committed
Dear Neil: I am a single Mum of 9 year old twin girls. Six and a half years ago, I met this man, and we had a wonderful and passionate connection. After a year, I discovered he had numerous financial issues, as well as breaches of honesty. Among other things, he had spent the deposit […]
Do I Wait Around for a Man Who Can’t Commit?
Dear Neil: Me and my partner have been a couple for 3 years. In that time he has left me and come back eight different times. He came back to me 2 months ago, telling me he loved me and that he really wanted to make our relationship work. Things were going very well, and […]
Choosing Unavailable Men
Dear Neil: A while back I grew close to a guy who was in a 10-year relationship with someone else. He always told me to be open to meeting someone else. So I met someone else. But things were complicated from the beginning, because he wants to become a catholic priest. He enjoys my company […]