s…and is a poor way of resolving differences In a fight or argument, what is your fight style? Does one of you run from conflict, refuse to talk about a disagreement, withdraw, cry, shut down or emotionally disappear in the face of conflict? If so, you fit the description of “conflict avoidant.” Regardless as to […]
Erotic talk, called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), is about talking in sensuous ways that generate passion between you and your lover. Here are some Gabriel suggests that you can add erotic talk to spice up your intimate relationship: Learn the art of “erotic subtext.” […]
Most men and women find that erotic words and voice tone are important ingredients in their arousal. Called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), she says words are wonderful aphrodisiacs. “Through words, you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner’s mind so they send shivers […]
A Valentine Week Primer on How to Have The Best Intimate Relationship You Possibly Can A+ relationship. Noun. 1. The best intimate relationship you can possibly create. 2. A loving monogamous relationship that is excellent, superior, awesome, exciting, passionate, growing, fulfilling, fascinating and romantic. 3. An act of creation involving two individuals—two artists whose lifework […]
More recommendations on romance taken from the book 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory J.P. Godek. First the basics: flowers; chocolate; greeting cards (store bought); greeting cards (home-made); jewelry; teddy bears; lingerie; love poems; love songs and love coupons. Additional basics include love letters, sending flowers to the office, breakfast in bed, weekend get-aways and walks […]
Want to put some spice, zing, spark and pizazz back into your relationship? Try being more romantic. Romance is not about elaborate gifts or surprises, although elaborate gifts can be romantic. Romance is about doing the little sweet things for someone else, which can include unasked for and surprise gifts. Surprise gifts are cherished. The […]
Being willing to risk hurt is key to deepening a relationship Dear Neil: I am an attractive, single professional woman in my early 40’s. I have a good figure, no children. I have been divorced for ten years and have dated a lot of different men. So why am I still single? My relationships with […]
Valentine’s Relationship Requires Consistent Effort Make sure that you express your affection verbally every day. All of us like “sweet nothings” whispered in our ear. “Sweet nothings” usually consist of genuinely complimenting or thanking your mate whenever you can, telling your mate positive things you feel about him/her, or expressing appreciation for his/her virtues. “I […]
How do you nurture a relationship? There are a variety of ways to do so, including confiding, tenderness, forgiving, endearments, compliments, and a variety of caring, giving and loving behaviors. But perhaps the most important of all nurturing behaviors is touch. From infancy on, touch and affection are a vital part of the bonding process. […]
Taking vs. Giving in a Relationship Dear Neil: When is it going to be my turn? My wife is busy at work during the day, then comes home and pours all of her time and energy into taking care of the children. That would be fine, except that then she’s typically too tired for me—even […]