Dear Neil: My husband and I have been married 9 years. We have struggled financially the entire time. He lost his job after we got back from our honeymoon, and has since jumped from job to job, so he has contributed significantly less than I have to our monthly budget the entire time. Recently he […]
I have been living with this man for 18 months. Four months ago I found a text on his phone asking for a sensual massage. I googled the number and multiple ads popped up about guys asking for “happy ending” massages. When I confronted my partner, he admitted he likes getting getting a hand job […]
Every troubled relationship gives warning signs that things are going poorly. A spouse or partner will act discontent, or they will become resentful, angry, distant or withdrawn. Pay close attention to these signs; they need to be addressed immediately. You can do that by asking questions about how your partner is feeling about you and […]
Dear Neil: When we wake up in the morning, the first thing my girlfriend does is get on her phone, and she’s gone for an hour or two. At nighttime when we get into bed, she spends 2-3 hours checking Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. She doesn’t say a word to me while she does this. […]
Dear Neil: I had been pursuing a woman for a couple of months, and we ended up dating for a while after that. It never got very serious, and in the end she let me know that she wasn’t looking for anything romantic with me. I was upset, but she was fair and direct about […]
Dear Neil: I am a married sex-starved woman. Although I think my husband loves me, he does not act as if he desires me. He doesn’t approach me sexually, and he is always too tired or not in the mood when I approach him. This has gone on for years, but has gotten progressively worse […]
Dear Neil: No matter how a man treats you in marriage, if you are a woman you are always expected to allow him access to your body. Even when he calls you insulting names, mocks your sexual history, graphically describes your sex life to other men, is verbally abusive or makes sex painful, bad or […]
Dear Neil: I am a 6-year widow dating a 4-year widower. We both had long-term marriages. We have been dating for 18 months and have been talking about moving into a rental together. But his house is like a museum to his deceased wife; every corner and shelf is filled with her knickknacks and collections. […]
Think you know how your spouse or intimate partner feels about your sexual relationship? If so, have you checked out whether your assumptions are accurate? If you’re like most of us, you probably have not had a recent conversation with your partner about sex and how each of you are feeling about it. So here […]
Dear Neil: You very kindly answered an email I sent you 6 months ago about avoiding attachment with men. You suggested I work on my self-esteem in therapy, which I have done. Hence my sense of utter confusion and despair because I feel terrified of closeness and being hurt, resulting in panic attacks. This only […]