Handling Criticism Better

Note:  This is the second of a two-part series. What’s the worst thing anyone could say aokut you?  Of the myriad of potential answers you might come up with, let’s say that your spouse or lover says that you’re insecure. Instead of getting angry or defensive, let’s say you were open to exploring whether the […]

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What’s Behind Your Need To Defend Yourself?

Are you defensive?  Have people told you that you respond defensively when feedback, criticism, suggestions or requests are made of you?  Have you noticed that you have a tendency of never wanting to admit that you’re wrong—even when you could be? Byron Katie, in her book I Need Your Love—Is That True? (Three Rivers Press) […]

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Being Less Defensive and Reactive

Dear Neil:  I seem to get defensive a lot—whenever someone at work criticizes me or suggests how I could have done better, whenever my husband makes a request of me that implies that I’m not doing a good enough job as a wife, whenever my daughter says something that hurts me.  Then I get angry, […]

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