The following questions will help you to evaluate what kind of partner you are, how you’re doing and what changes that would help you to be a better spouse. Answer the following questions honestly and thoroughly. It will help for you to write your answers down or type them up, because you won’t remember them […]
Reader Writes: Don’t Tolerate Someone Who Runs Away From You. Move On.
Dear Neil: My advice to all these people who are in a relationship with someone who repeatedly runs away from a loving relationship: Move on, it’s only going to continue. If you are over the age of 30, you don’t have time to be playing love games. When somebody really loves you, they don’t run […]
Getting Down to the Bottom of an Issue
Dear Neil: I was in a relationship with a man for almost two years. We only had sex twice. He claimed the issue was with him and not with me, and said he didn’t want to talk about it. I assumed it was a physical issue. But he left me and found someone else who […]
Can This Relationship Be Saved?
Dear Neil: I love my partner with all my heart, but we have reached a point where she may leave me. When we first got together, I lied about previous sexual partners. I wanted her to like me regardless of my past. She found out I was lying, but I was so afraid of being […]
After 27 Years of Marriage, Why Don’t We Have a Partnership?
Dear Neil: My husband and I have been married for 27 years. He gives 110% at work, and barely any effort at home. It has been like that throughout our entire marriage. We both work, and I had the primary responsibility of raising our 4 children, who are all adults now. I have a good […]
Not Till Death Do Us Part: Our Attitudes About Marriage are Changing
Our cultural attitudes about marriage, living together without getting married and having children have been shifting dramatically. Look at these rather amazing findings about the world we are now living in. As recently reported in the New York Times by David Brooks, in 1957, 57 percent of those surveyed said that they believed adults were […]
Wanting Someone Who Doesn’t Want You
Dear Neil: I just broke things off with my boyfriend of 3 years because he’s been holding back in our otherwise fantastic relationship. We have had loads of fun together, we fight minimally, never bicker, laugh constantly, we have a wonderful sex life and we have a variety of mutual friends and interests. About a […]
The Only Way to Affair-Proof Your Relationship
We know that for the past 30 or so years, the divorce rate has been stuck between 40 and 50 percent of marriages. We also know that some people who elect to stay together are not happy together. They remain with each other because of children, religious beliefs, economic necessity or fear they won’t do […]
Quotes From Famous People on Love, Sex and Marriage
In the spirit of the holiday season, let me invite you to look at the lighter side of intimate relationships. Following is a collection of quotes on the subject of love, sex, marriage, men, women and being in a relationship: I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to […]
Acting Helpless and In Need of Rescue Does Not Make For a Happy Relationship
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. The opposite of mothering a grown man is to act like a little girl around him. Little girls get lots of attention for being sweet, cute and vulnerable. As a grown woman, are you using little girl tactics as a way to attract or to keep […]