Dear Neil: My fiancé and I are in a 15 month relationship, and we’re planning on getting married 5 months from now. But before we marry, we need some help. First of all, you would think that we have been together long enough so that we would have worked out basic living agreements. But no, […]
Dear Neil: I met a real nice man about six months ago. We have been out a few times and he calls me every day. We talk about a lot of things, but I don’t know much about him. He doesn’t live very far from me, but when I ask him to come over, he […]
“We have been married 38 years, have four children and five grandchildren,” writes a woman from Milwaukee. “Last December, I confirmed my suspicion (that my husband) had been seeing someone else. She’d just turned 40, which is three years older than our oldest daughter.” “The other woman sent me copies of photos, notes and cards that he […]
Dear Neil: I discovered a few months ago that my husband was having an emotional affair. I had to discover everything—because he would not confess it until I asked him questions. First it was just “friends,” until I found more evidence. Then he admitted they had “feelings” for each other. But because he never came […]
Dear Neil: I am a 38 year-old woman who has recently married a 50 year-old man with two grown children. I would dearly love a baby, but each time this issue is raised he gets hostile. He has had a vasectomy, but my time for having children is ticking by. I feel if I raise […]
Dear Neil: From my own experience, I have become aware that achieving orgasm during intercourse is difficult for many women—and frequently results in disappointment and disillusionment. Instead of an expression of mutual love, it becomes an act of service or duty for the woman, who afterwards must contain her unrelieved sexual tension. After 27 years […]
Dear Neil: I want your advise on whether my boyfriend is bisexual. Here are the facts. I found a book in his room titled “How To Make Love To A Man.” He likes to watch gay porn, tells me about rape fantasies with other men and buys gay porn. He always wants to have anal […]
Dear Neil: Twice in the past year my boyfriend of two years has indicated to me that he’s confused and needs to think about our relationship. The first time was six months ago. Now he wants more time, and I’m not sure I want to give him any more time. Is he going to be […]
Dear Neil: Last year things began to change drastically in my three and a half year relationship. We had made plans to get married when suddenly he stopped treating me with the respect he always had, he was angry, blamed me for things, told me he needed time to himself to sort things out, rented […]
Dear Neil: My girlfriend is a wonderful woman in every way but one. But this one thing makes me question whether we could ever be compatible with each other long-term. She lets everything go till the last minute. You name it—bills, showing up for an appointment on time, washing dishes, doing the laundry, cleaning her […]