Dear Neil: I am in a stable dating relationship, which I very much sought and wanted. But after two years of living together, I find myself looking at all the hot men that come into the restaurant I work at, wondering whether I should make myself available in order to date them. Recently I was […]
In the spirit of the holiday season, let me invite you to look at the lighter side of intimate relationships. Following is a collection of quotes on the subject of love, sex, marriage, men, women and being in a relationship: I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to […]
Dear Neil: I am torn between helping my unemployed sister out or thinking that I am just enabling her. My sister hasn’t worked for legal tender in years. I have agreed to pay her rent of $750 per month for her 1 bedroom apartment this past year, with the agreement that she would start to […]
Dear Neil: I am in a long-term mostly happy marriage with my husband of 17 years, but there is no sexual juice at all between us. In virtually every other respect our relationship is wonderful: we love and care about each other, we are financially doing OK, we ‘re good parents together, we’re very compatible, […]
Dear Neil: I read your recent article about willful blindness, and it brings up an issue I am grappling with in my marriage. I have expectations which are not being met, and I’ve been ignoring a variety of behaviors. My husband and I have virtually no intimacy whatsoever. Other than eating together and watching TV […]
Dear Neil: My wife has decided that she is going to get pregnant. She didn’t ask me how I felt about having a child, she told me that she has made a decision to get pregnant. What do you think about this? Feeling Forced in San Antonio, Texas Dear San Antonio: On first blush I […]
It’s plastered all over recent news reports. Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the managing director of the International Monetary Fund—and a married man with children—arrested for alleged attempted forcible rape of a hotel chambermaid. Arnold Schwarzenegger, actor and recent Governor of California, and also a married man with children, admitted that he fathered a child with one of […]
Dear Neil: I am very bored and lonely. This is a problem—because I am in a relationship. We have been together 10 years, and we share the same house. He says it’s not fair for me to expect him to spend time with me. He has things to do and can’t get them done if […]
Dear Neil: I’m a 21 year old college student going into my final year. I have been in a relationship for almost two years with my first serious boyfriend. I am not going to get married for another year at least. My parents are pushing me away from the relationship because they believe I should […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. The opposite of mothering a grown man is to act like a little girl around him. Little girls get lots of attention for being sweet, cute and vulnerable. As a grown woman, are you using little girl tactics as a way to attract or to keep […]