Dear Neil: Twice in the past year my boyfriend of two years has indicated to me that he’s confused and needs to think about our relationship. The first time was six months ago. Now he wants more time, and I’m not sure I want to give him any more time. Is he going to be […]
I’m 21. Is it Too Soon to Think About Marriage?
Dear Neil: I’m a 21 year old college student going into my final year. I have been in a relationship for almost two years with my first serious boyfriend. I am not going to get married for another year at least. My parents are pushing me away from the relationship because they believe I should […]
How Committed Are You – Truthfully?
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one This is a continuation of the soul-searching questions about how committed you are to your intimate partner or spouse: Do the two of you make joint decisions on major matters? Do you keep each other informed? Can your partner depend on […]
A Soul-Searching Look at Commitment
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two My wife and I have been married twenty five years, but every so often I talk about separating and/or divorcing because I am unhappy with our relationship and the way my wife acts. Does commitment waver for couples depending on the […]
Is There a Way I Can Get My Boyfriend to Commit to Me?
Dear Neil: It seems the differences between men and women have been shattering my hopes and dreams as of late. My boyfriend (well, no longer) and I are both 33, we have been together for almost two years, having mounds of fun together. But all talks about the future have always stemmed from me, and […]
What To Do If You’re The “Other” Woman
Dear Neil: I am an avid reader of your column. I would like for you to address the flip side of infidelity—and discuss the “other” woman. She is not always an evil harlot looking for fun. I can speak from experience, since I have been on both sides. I was married and cheated on, and […]
Why Does My Girlfriend Keep Leaving Me For Other Men?
Dear Neil: Me and my ex-girlfriend have been in an on and off again relationship for the last eight years. We had a child about a year after we met. She also had an on and off relationship with a boyfriend before (and during her relationship with) me. When I was getting ready to propose […]
Husband Can’t Reach Orgasm
Dear Neil: I am a 68 year-young woman, married for one year after being widowed for many years. We are very active sexually, but the only issue we have is that my husband can’t reach orgasm. The desire and excitement is present, but the body seems unwilling to cooperate. He is 70. He seems blocked […]
Is My Boyfriend Too Damaged From Childhood?
Dear Neil: I’m in a one year relationship with a man. We seem to have a real genuine bond and friendship, and we communicate well and talk all the time. Basically we have what I would consider a “perfect relationship,” except for one thing. I feel he is holding back from me. I am scared […]
Is Living Together Without Marriage Still a Committed Relationship?
Dear Neil: I told a male friend I had sexual fantasies about him. At the time, he was living with a woman. I persuaded myself that if a man is a partner/boyfriend with a woman and not her fiancé or husband, he is actually available. I figured that if a couple isn’t married within two […]