Note: This is the second of a three-part series. Click here for part one (the quiz) Do you have a fear of commitment? Are you involved with someone who does? The following is a breakdown of the different issues that lead people to fear commitment in their romantic relationships: The quest for perfection. Worrying about […]
Dear Neil: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two months, and I’m having a very hard time moving on. About a month into our relationship, while he was drunk, he told me that he was paranoid about getting close to me because he was afraid I would break up with him. During our […]
Dear Neil: I have lived with my boyfriend for 10 months. A couple of weeks ago he went out with a long-time female friend of his, and he didn’t get home until 3 a.m. on a Tuesday night. I questioned him about where he was, and he said “at a bar,” which I later found […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Here are more ideas on how you can overcome the fear of commitment: Know yourself and recognize the pattern about how you behave in relationships. Know whether you actively run from commitment, or if you choose unavailable or inappropriate partners. Know the point in any relationship […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: Recently you wrote about the fear of commitment. Could you also address how to overcome that fear? I am in a nine-year relationship, and I can’t seem to take the plunge and marry. Any suggestions you have would be greatly appreciated. Fearing Commitment in […]
Dear Neil: Would you address the subject of having lustful fantasies about others while being in a stable, long-term monogamous relationship? Is there a place for sexual fantasies about others in a healthy committed relationship? The two of us are divided on this subject, and my partner is upset with me, accusing me of mental […]
Dear Neil: I’m a 40-something religious woman with a strong, rural upbringing. The friendship I have with one man is a wonderful thing for both of us, but I want more than that with him. He doubts he’ll ever get married again. But he is such a compassionate, caring and understanding person that it seems […]
Dear Neil: I am in a four year relationship with a woman I live with, but have been unwilling to commit to. She isn’t the kind of person I thought I’d permanently wind up with. She isn’t a college educated professional. She doesn’t communicate well, and she is extremely emotional. But she is caring, sensitive […]