Listed below are six different styles, or way of loving, from the Love Attitude Scale by Claude and Susan Hendrick. You may embody more than one of these styles. You also may change styles with time and circumstances. All are valid styles that reflect different attitudes about love. What is your style? Eros My partner […]
Perfect Lovers
If someone were given instructions about how to seduce you, could you describe what they would do in order to seduce you perfectly, the exact way you’d like. Do this interesting exercise together as a couple. Ask each other the above question, and allow yourself to be taught how to be a better lover. For […]
Enriching Your Intimate Relationship
We know that Valentine’s Day has been observed for over five hundred years, but there is evidence that it has been associated with lovers from as early as 269 A.D. February 15th was an ancient pagan holiday that represented spring (February fell in springtime in the Julian Calendar, which was used before the 16th century). […]
What is Love?
If there is such a thing as heaven on earth, the passionate attachment that we call love is as close as we get to transcending normal reality and lifting our hearts and spirits to a higher dimension. People who are in love are literally high on life. It is not always so simple to distinguish […]
Sexual Attraction
“My husband is of a stocky build which I thought was okay when we married. However, after 17 years and another 50-60 pounds, I find him totally unattractive,” writes Sharon R. of Denver. “I still love him, but the feelings seem purely platonic. This problem has progressed to the point that in order to enjoy […]
Rekindling Love
Falling Out of Love “Three years ago, [my husband] became depressed, and criticized our home, our life; everything was wrong,” writes an anonymous woman from Christchurch, New Zealand. “I kept quiet but became hurt and resentful. I felt used and unloved. I have heard enough of comments such as ‘grow a brain,’ ‘you’re full of […]
How to Forgive and Let Go of Your Hurt
Forgiveness is a choice, it is not an emotion. You are not going to feel like it, but you can do it. Apparently, nobody is born with a lot of talent for forgiving. If you do not forgive those who have hurt you, you will have a very hard time trusting other people, and that […]
Improving Communication
Of all the issues that cause trouble for couples, perhaps the most frequent complaint marriage therapists hear is “We’re having trouble communicating with each other.” It is a strange compliant to hear, because most couples are effective in communicating during courtship. The way two people become a couple basically requires them to be willing to […]
Conflict Resolution in an Intimate Relationship
There are three things necessary to sustain a healthy, on going, romantic, intimate relationship: heart, fire and skills. When Jack and Nancy entered marriage therapy, it was obvious that they still had heart and fire. But their six year marriage clearly lacked effective skills, and that’s why their relationship was on the rocks. “We get […]