Dear Neil: I need help. I’m in a 9 year relationship with my boyfriend, and we have a 5 year old child. We have broken up a bunch of times. Every time things are OK and we are not yelling or fighting with each other, I do something to rock the boat. We both have […]
The Early Warning Signs of an Abuser
Dear Neil: Would you write about abusive relationships and how to avoid them? Concerned in Denver Dear Concerned: Here are some of the key early warning signs of an abuser: Possessiveness and jealousy. Does your partner demand that the two of you go everywhere together, and that you should not be alone, interact with other […]
What to Do If You’re in an Abusive Relationship
Dear Neil: The last year of our marriage, my husband has been quite abusive to me. It’s mostly verbal, but it did get physical one time, which left me with bruises. I have forgiven him, but I’m coming to realize that I should not have to live like this. I have not reported him to […]
How Can I Get the Strength to Leave My Abusive Husband?
Dear Neil: I am in an abusive relationship with my husband. Recently he was taken to jail for domestic violence. He claimed he never touched me, and that I inflicted the bruises on myself. This finally pushed me to leave, but during that separation we started counseling. I have since returned home, and things for […]
What Do I Do About My Abusive Husband?
Dear Neil: Can counseling help a situation such as ours? My marriage from the start has involved verbal, emotional, mental and at times physical abuse. Police have been involved several times. In the most recent incident, where things got somewhat physical, I left the home. My husband, thinking I was going to contact the police, […]
The Signs of Abuse
Dear Neil: My husband and I have been having problems since I had my son. I became depressed after having my son two years ago. He began drinking heavily, saying that was the only way he could deal with me. He began pushing me on the floor regularly to get me back in line, and […]
Verbally Abusive Husband
Needs Stong Wife Who Forces Change Dear Neil: My husband of three years was verbally abusive. I sugar-coated things, instead of telling him what I was feeling, because I was afraid he would yell and curse at me. I got sick of telling him to calm down and stop yelling, so I left him. After […]
Abused Woman Needs to Leave Her Husband and Get Help
Dear Neil: I have had a hard time the last two years with anxiety. I lost my position at work because of my anxiety. I’m crying and yelling a lot, and I really get upset. When I get upset, my husband spanks me and sometimes throws me around. He says this is the only way […]
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]