Dear Neil: I am in an abusive relationship with my husband. Recently he was taken to jail for domestic violence. He claimed he never touched me, and that I inflicted the bruises on myself. This finally pushed me to leave, but during that separation we started counseling. I have since returned home, and things for […]
Dear Neil: Can counseling help a situation such as ours? My marriage from the start has involved verbal, emotional, mental and at times physical abuse. Police have been involved several times. In the most recent incident, where things got somewhat physical, I left the home. My husband, thinking I was going to contact the police, […]
Dear Neil: My husband and I have been having problems since I had my son. I became depressed after having my son two years ago. He began drinking heavily, saying that was the only way he could deal with me. He began pushing me on the floor regularly to get me back in line, and […]
Needs Stong Wife Who Forces Change Dear Neil: My husband of three years was verbally abusive. I sugar-coated things, instead of telling him what I was feeling, because I was afraid he would yell and curse at me. I got sick of telling him to calm down and stop yelling, so I left him. After […]
Recognizing verbal abuse is emotionally painful. It has to do with loss—the loss of illusion—and it is hurtful to the spirit. If you suffer from verbal abuse in your relationship, or suspect that you do, these are some steps you can take: Start setting limits.. Setting a limit is stating “I will not accept…” When […]
Are you in a relationship with someone who seems irritated or angry with you a great deal of the time? Where mistrust and ill will seems to prevail? Where you feel controlled or manipulated to such a degree that you do not feel in control of your own direction? If so, you may be in […]
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]