Dear Neil: My ex-boyfriend proposed to me recently. I have not given him an answer. I am not fully in love with him. He has great personality traits, but I do not feel physically attracted to him, and I don’t know what to do. I am afraid if I say yes, our marriage may not […]
41 and Never Dated – What Am I Doing Wrong?
Dear Neil: I am forty-one and have never dated or even been asked out on a date. I am a Christian, nice looking, successful and full of life and joy. My question is why have I not been asked out or even approached? To me, God has this glass box around me with a sign […]
How Do I Deepen a Beginning Relationship?
Dear Neil: I recently met a man through a popular on-line dating service, and we’ve had three dates in the past month. I really like the man I’ve met, but I’m having trouble reading the signs. I’m open to sharing personal details about myself in order to connect with someone and become close. But he […]
Why Aren’t Men Checking Me Out?
Dear Neil: Is there something that makes men attracted to women? Why is it that my best friend is hit on all the time (even as she gains a little weight), but I don’t get hit on at all. I am shy, and I just don’t have it in me to talk to a random […]
Romancing The Stone
Dear Neil: I have a boyfriend who I think of as my soul mate, and I love him dearly. The problem is that he rarely calls me, rarely has time to get together, rarely invites me out to dinner(or to other forms of entertainment), and seldom is endearing or romantic toward me. He is preoccupied […]
Rules for Internet Dating
Been looking for love in all the wrong places? Have you been having trouble meeting people that interest and attract you romantically? If so, you and (along tens of millions of other people) may decide to try your luck at one of the on-line dating services, even as you catch yourself telling people that you’re […]
Where Are All The Good Men?
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: I am an attractive, successful, affluent woman in my forties, and I am having a hard time finding men who I might consider marrying. Why is there such a Great Man Shortage? Where are all the good men? Puzzled in Estes Park, Colorado Dear […]
How Can I Recapture a Woman After I Jilted Her?
Dear Neil: I have recently ended an 11 month relationship. I thought I didn’t love her, yet now I have the overwhelming urge to have her back in my life. I realize that I was blocking out love, and that I had never tried to open my heart to her. She took the breakup quite […]
Want to Succeed at a New Relationship? Try This!
Following is a partial set of recommendations in how to succeed in connecting, bonding and falling in love with someone new: Treat the search for a new love as an active—not a passive—process, and give it as much time, energy, attention and focus as you do every other high priority in your life. Treat it […]
Why is it So Hard to Find a New Love? Part 2
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Following is a continuation of the discussion of why people today have a hard time meeting, connecting, bonding and falling in love: Some men and women compare several potential partners against each other, and frequently wind up not being able to make up their minds. They […]