It was not so long ago that a large number of people thought something was wrong with those who didn’t partner up and get married. Such people were thought of as selfish, tied to their mothers’ apron strings or grossly unappealing. Either way, they were thought of in negative terms, and were not viewed as […]
Dear Neil: Could you explain how dating works? I am 29 years old, and don’t know how to tell a guy that I want him to invite me out on a date. I get routinely texted to hang out with a guy and his friends, but I don’t want to just hookup with guys anymore. […]
Dear Neil: What I’d like to see discussed in your column is an article about how a controlling/abusive person can slowly take you over. The use of manipulation, derogatory comments and wild romantic promises keep you confused and reluctant to say anything. I have been single for five years since I broke free of my […]
Dear Neil: I am 24 years old, single and alone. I have found myself withdrawing from other people because I feel this profound sense of aloneness and loneliness, and I can’t shake this feeling of isolation. Is there a cure for loneliness? Lonely in New Mexico Dear New Mexico: Loneliness begins with you feeling alienated […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one The following is a continuation of how to choose a mate in the second half of life—and how to decide whom not to choose: How emotionally open is your romantic partner? Relationships require us to open up and actually reveal ourselves. […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two If you are single, dating and over 50, you’ll most likely know that dating at this station in life has very little in common with when you were dating in your teens or 20’s. So much has changed since then about […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Let’s say you’re 50 years of age or older. And let’s also say that you’re single and dating, or about to be single and interested in dating again. And finally, let’s also say that you’re unsure about how to evaluate and […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: I am 55, and find myself single all over again. Trying to find a relationship is radically different than it was when I was in my 20s. I want to remarry, but it’s harder to date at this age, […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been in an on-and-off again relationship with a man I have two children with. I love him dearly and I want to be with him. But he wants to leave in order to determine what he really wants from our relationship and how he feels about me. He’s having a hard time […]
Dear Neil: Almost universally you’ll hear women say they want a guy with a “good sense of humor.” What exactly does that mean? Am I supposed to be cracking jokes all day long? I tend to be on the serious side. What am I supposed to do? Not Understanding in Longmont, Colorado Dear Not Understanding: […]