Dear Neil: I wonder if you would address the situation of marital rape. This happened to me many years ago (once). I am a senior now and still have not been able to put this behind me. I still resent my husband deeply, along with his many lies and deceits. He does none of these […]
Aging Well
Feeling older? Most of us do, although it’s obvious that some people are aging better than others. Aging well is not a secret. It’s a series of steps anyone can take. It’s about making sure that the various aspects of your life (health, your relationships with others, inner peace, future goals, gratitude, having fun, etc.) […]
Seduction Tips for Women
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Many women adopt a passive attitude toward romance; they tend to think of courtship, romance and seduction as something a man does to them. It’s a man’s job to woo you, make you feel valued, special and beautiful, bring you flowers, open doors for you , […]
How Do I Stop Losing Myself in My Relationships?
Dear Neil: I am a well accomplished successful artist in my mid-thirties. I am confident in most areas of my life. However, when I get into a relationship, I lose myself completely. I become insecure, dependent on what men think, desperate for approval. I forget my own life and my own priorities, and I end […]
Romance Requires You to Walk Your Talk
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Here is a continuation of ways to keep the romance strong and vital in your intimate relationship: Touch. Touch is the greatest aphrodisiac that exists. It helps us to get close, feel close and stay close. If you’re not touching each other a lot, your relationship […]
The Essence of Romance
As we approach Valentine’s Day this year, I would like to highlight some of the best ways to keep your relationship romantic, close, connected and hot: Learn how to nurture. When you think of nurturing a child, most people know what that means. But when you nurturing your intimate partner, many people give blank stares […]
Emotionally Unavailable People Typically Remain Unavailable
Dear Neil: I have always blamed the men I was with for things not working out. They weren’t right, didn’t treat me well, etc. The last man I was with expressed to me that he didn’t know what to do with his life and what he wanted. This man was not only directionless, he was […]
Couple’s Exercise: Working Through The Frustrations
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Would you like to increase the closeness and intimacy between the two of you as a couple? Resolve conflicts more amicably? Get your deep-seated needs met consistently? Increase passion? Have a more intentional and conscious relationship? Try this couple’s exercise, courtesy of Harville Hendrix and Helen […]
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. If you wish to raise an emotionally intelligent child, you’re going to have to get good at being your child’s emotion coach. Emotional coaching consists of the following steps: Being aware of the child’s emotions. Emotional awareness means that you recognize when you’re feeling an emotion, […]
How Children Learn To Be Emotionally Intelligent
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Imagine for a moment what it would be like to grow up in a home where your parents expected you to always be cheerful, happy and calm. The trouble is, things keep happening in your life that makes it nearly impossible to keep up a happy […]