Dear Neil: My husband seems to be looking for every little thing the kids do wrong, and it’s causing our children to act the same way toward each other. He does this from the moment he gets up until he goes to bed. He never points out the good. What should I do? Emotionally Drained […]
Feeling Inadequate Leads to Critical and Controlling Behavior
Dear Neil: My husband always has to be right, acts like he knows everything and takes every opportunity to make me look wrong. I can’t make him understand that his criticism makes me feel badly. I wonder if I am adding to the problem by avoiding conflict, letting him have his way and not speaking […]
Differing Sexual Appetites
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. When it comes to feeling loved in an intimate relationship, we all have different requirements. Some people feel loved when they’re wined, dined and romanced. Other people feel loved when they can share their innermost self with your innermost self. Still other people feel loved when […]
Wife’s Low Libido May Have Many Causes
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: My wife of seven years has seemingly lost all interest in sex. When I approach her, she says she’s too tired, or she doesn’t feel well, or she’s in a crabby mood. Before our two children (ages 2 and 4) we had a vibrant […]
My Boyfriend’s Rejection is Confusing
Dear Neil: I’ve been in a relationship with someone for three years. My boyfriend says that I don’t deserve to be with someone who is so up and down with his feelings. He says he loves me and is in love with me, but can’t stay because he doesn’t deserve me. He still wants me […]
Why Can’t I Commit To My Boyfriend?
Dear Neil: I am 23 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for three years. I have grown to realize that he is a wonderful guy with all the great qualities you’d want, and he treats me very well. He’s the kind of guy you could settle down with and marry. The problem is […]
Deepen Your Relationship or Lose It!
Dear Neil: My relationship with my lover of almost four years abruptly ended three weeks ago when we returned from a trip to Las Vegas. After a year of seeing each other I became pregnant but had a miscarriage. For the two years after that, we seemed to be getting closer. On the recent trip […]
Making Peace With Your Inner Critic
Dear Neil: I am interested in your thoughts on how to feel compassion for myself. I am extremely hard on myself, and I regularly think of how I could have said or done something better—after the fact. I would like to know how to be kind and compassionate to myself and put my inner critic […]
Money Issues Can Be Resolved, but it Takes Hard Work
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Money issues have the potential to ruin or define a marriage like few other things, because money is not simply about money. Money symbolizes much about how well we trust, how true your commitment is, how deeply we feel loved and […]
Money Issues and Intimacy: An Inventory
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Money is the topic that is consistently reported to be the number one problem area for couples. Not jealousy or sex or chores, but money. So if you and your partner don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to money, you’re […]