Adding Zing to Your Relationship Jerry D. of Arvada writes, “After twenty plus years, (my wife and I) still love each other a lot, but our relationship has been on a plateau for several years. We both would like to add some excitement and new dimensions to our marriage that might revitalize our intimacy. Do […]
Conflict Resolution in an Intimate Relationship
There are three things necessary to sustain a healthy, on going, romantic, intimate relationship: heart, fire and skills. When Jack and Nancy entered marriage therapy, it was obvious that they still had heart and fire. But their six year marriage clearly lacked effective skills, and that’s why their relationship was on the rocks. “We get […]
Quiz: Evaluating Your Relationship
This inventory offers you an opportunity to be more objective in looking at a current or previous relationship. It is not a scientifically validated questionnaire, but a guide based on my observations about what’s important in a relationship—and about what gets intimate relationships in trouble. If you are doing this as a couple, score this […]
Gender Differences in Relationships
Men, Women and Intimacy In the long run for humankind, which of the following is of greater significance? The relationship between east and west; the relationship between north and south; the relationship between liberals and conservatives; the relationship between men and women? At a recent workshop I conducted on men, women and gender differences in […]
Evaluating a Romantic Partner
For two years, Elli Robinson had been dating a man she felt comfortable with, a man whom she liked and cared about. They had even been talking about marriage. Recently, Her car broke down on I-25, and the first person who stopped to offer help was a strikingly attractive man, to whom Elli felt very […]