Dear Neil: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We just broke up because he is adopted and he has issues loving someone. I don’t know what to say to him to convince him that I love him and I’m not going anywhere. I could care less that he’s adopted but he can’t […]
Dear Neil: My ex-boyfriend proposed to me recently. I have not given him an answer. I am not fully in love with him. He has great personality traits, but I do not feel physically attracted to him, and I don’t know what to do. I am afraid if I say yes, our marriage may not […]
Note: This is the second of two-part series. The following is a continuation of the traits that are associated with flourishing and thriving in life. This list was stimulated by the book Flourishing (Edited by Corey Keyes and Jonathan Haidt, American Psychological Association). These traits give people the inner experience of well-being and are associated […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Quick. Without thinking a lot about it, can you say what makes your life worth living? Perhaps you’ve noticed that some people go through life reluctantly, as if dragged against their will. They don’t feel that they make a difference, and nothing they do seems to […]
Dear Neil: I am forty-one and have never dated or even been asked out on a date. I am a Christian, nice looking, successful and full of life and joy. My question is why have I not been asked out or even approached? To me, God has this glass box around me with a sign […]
Dear Neil: I recently met a man through a popular on-line dating service, and we’ve had three dates in the past month. I really like the man I’ve met, but I’m having trouble reading the signs. I’m open to sharing personal details about myself in order to connect with someone and become close. But he […]
Note: This is the third of a three-part series. Want a technique that will replace your anger and resentment with something more compassionate and loving? Steven Stosny in his groundbreaking book You Don’t Have To Take It Anymore (Free Press) explains how to rid yourself of anger and resentment: Access your core hurts. Our core […]
Note: This is the second of a three-part series. Think of a time when your intimate partner was resentful or angry at you and s/he was actually right—you did do something wrong. Even though s/he was right, you may have felt s/he was making too much of it, or overlooking crucial details, or reducing you […]
Note: This is the first of a three part series. Want to have a better relationship? One of the worst things that can happen to your health and happiness is to live with a resentful, angry or abusive partner. But the worst thing you can do is become a resentful, angry or abusive partner. Real […]
Dear Neil: What makes a person—namely a man—become emotionally unavailable? Why do men seem to value being emotionally available far less than women? What are some things a man could do to overcome being emotionally unavailable? Hurt in New York Dear Hurt: I get so many questions from readers about this subject that repeating some […]