Dear Neil: Help me make sense out of what happened in this relationship. From the time we first met, “Brianna” and I were together all the time. The relationship turned extremely erotic, and it stayed that way for a full year. But then more and more demands were placed on me. She wanted more entertainment […]
What Can You Do if Your Partner Has a Low Sex Drive?
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Do you want sex more than your intimate partner does? Is the lack of sex—or the infrequency of sex—driving you up a wall, so to speak? If so, and if especially if she’s female, your partner might believe in her heart of hearts that the only […]
Father’s Critical Parenting Style May be Hurting His Children
Dear Neil: My husband seems to be looking for every little thing the kids do wrong, and it’s causing our children to act the same way toward each other. He does this from the moment he gets up until he goes to bed. He never points out the good. What should I do? Emotionally Drained […]
Differing Sexual Appetites
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. When it comes to feeling loved in an intimate relationship, we all have different requirements. Some people feel loved when they’re wined, dined and romanced. Other people feel loved when they can share their innermost self with your innermost self. Still other people feel loved when […]
Wife’s Low Libido May Have Many Causes
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: My wife of seven years has seemingly lost all interest in sex. When I approach her, she says she’s too tired, or she doesn’t feel well, or she’s in a crabby mood. Before our two children (ages 2 and 4) we had a vibrant […]
Seduction Tips for Women
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Many women adopt a passive attitude toward romance; they tend to think of courtship, romance and seduction as something a man does to them. It’s a man’s job to woo you, make you feel valued, special and beautiful, bring you flowers, open doors for you , […]
Girlfriend’s Loss of Desire Puzzling
Why would a woman sexually withdraw from a man? I have no reason to believe that there is anyone else in the picture, and we have talked about making a commitment to each other, but I told her I wasn’t ready for that yet. Any thoughts that you have will be greatly appreciated. Feeling Snubbed […]
Women’s Loss of Libido May Have a Cure
Dear Neil: My wife and I have been married for almost 30 years. (We are in our mid-fifties). For the last two or three years, I have noticed that she has gradually lost interest in sexual intimacy. I’m attracted to her and would love to see her back to her good old days, where as […]
You Can’t Have a Good Relationship Alone
Dear Neil: I have loved a man like no other. But I didn’t listen to my gut as he became the Silent Dark Shadow, and I stayed, hoping for it to get better. We had a lovely son together, but when I realized how lonely I was—that it has always been me wanting us to […]
Sexual “Secrets” Every Man Should Know
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: My marriage of 33 years has lost its sexual vitality. We are having occasional sex, but it’s no longer magical, or even special. Could address the question of what a man can do if he wants to infuse his marriage with a […]