Dear Neil: Please help me. I’m in love with a narcissist. I left my job because I was stressed, depressed, anxious and suicidal. It’s hard to leave him even though I know he’s bad for me. Desperate in Malaysia Dear Neil: I agree with most of your recommendations, but all bets are off if you […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Among all the frustrations of growing up with a narcissistic parent, one paradox is that although a narcissist strives to feel important, loved, powerful, in control, superior and omnipotent—hand-in-hand with those feelings lie the polar opposite feelings—of feeling unsafe, worthless, inferior, […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Did you have a parent who constantly criticized you? Did this parent expect you to admire him or her and give him or her constant attention? Or perhaps your parent insisted that everything be done his or her way, and your […]
Dear Neil: Why do I feel so unlovable? I never feel I’m good enough, I doubt myself all the time and I seldom trust my own judgment. Although people often describe me as a beautiful woman, this lack of belief in myself has caused me, as an adult, to choose men over and over again […]
Dear Neil: I would like to cure my narcissism, but I don’t know where to start. Can you help? Unsure of What To Do Dear Unsure: Let’s say your intimate partner says she isn’t feeling valued […]
Note: This is the second of a three part series. People who fall in love with a narcissist sometimes look to take care of others more than they look to take care of themselves. Anyone who has ever had a relationship with a narcissist knows how easy it is to become the person giving and […]
Note: This is the first of a three part series. In successful relationships, people find ways to compromise and work out differences. Ideally, each person will be able to satisfy some of his/her needs and whims at least part of the time. Often we can accommodate and support another person’s priorities without doing damage to […]
Dear Neil: I have loved a man like no other. But I didn’t listen to my gut as he became the Silent Dark Shadow, and I stayed, hoping for it to get better. We had a lovely son together, but when I realized how lonely I was—that it has always been me wanting us to […]
Dear Neil: A while back you wrote about narcissism. Your article described my ex-husband’s behavior extremely well. It was the first time I have been able to understand why he was so easily able to let our thirteen year marriage (and the children) go. My question is…how to I spot a narcissist next time before […]