Does a Long-Term Exclusive Relationship Deaden Sexual Desire?

Does a long-term exclusive relationship deaden sexual desire? Does being with the same sexual partner year in and year out lead to feelings of monotony? Do closeness and intimacy lead to good sex, or do people have the best sex during dating, courtship and/or early marriage? Perhaps you have some experience that no matter how […]

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Why Isn’t My Boyfriend Able to Sexually Function?

Dear Neil: I’ve been involved with a man for the past several months who seems to have trouble sustaining erotic arousal with me. I’m 25 and still a virgin. He’s 31 and experienced. We have an amazingly intense emotional connection. I know he finds me physically attractive and thinks very highly of me, and yet […]

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Why Are We No Longer Having Sex? Why Relationships Turn Celibate

Dear Neil: My wife and I are married twenty-five years, but we are no longer sexual, and haven’t been for three years. I guess you could say we have a celibate marriage, but I don’t understand why. We were always frisky with each other, but it slowly lessened until there was nothing at all. Why does […]

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Woman Sexually Unfulfilled and Full of Tension

Dear Neil:  From my own experience, I have become aware that achieving orgasm during intercourse is difficult for many women—and frequently results in disappointment and disillusionment.  Instead of an expression of mutual love, it becomes an act of service or duty for the woman, who afterwards must contain her unrelieved sexual tension.  After 27 years […]

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Is My Boyfriend Bisexual?

Dear Neil:  I want your advise on whether my boyfriend is bisexual. Here are the facts.  I found a book in his room titled “How To Make Love To A Man.”  He likes to watch gay porn, tells me about rape fantasies with other men and buys gay porn.  He always wants to have anal […]

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