Have you ever wondered how committed couples begin to fall apart? Typically one person gets preoccupied at work, or with the kids, or with day-to-day living or with worries. The other person gradually notices the partner/spouse/lover is more preoccupied and less emotionally present, and unconsciously adjusts his/her own emotional presence to match. This is subtle […]
Dear Neil: I am in a three year relationship with “Goeff” who is extremely unpredictable and volatile in his emotions. Although he has never physically lost control of himself, emotionally he can get set off by anything—making a request that he do something different, disappointing him in some way or getting upset at him over […]
Dear Neil: Exactly what is love? I have been hurt several times in the past in my relationships with men, so in my most recent relationship I kept myself safe and a bit withdrawn. But he rejected me, saying I was too guarded. I guess I don’t know what love is, and I don’t know […]
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Read part one and take the quiz If you are in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder traits, you may notice that your mate needs an infinite amount of attention, love or romance to make up for the self-love s/he lacks. But because borderlines think of […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Are you walking on eggshells a lot in your intimate relationship? If so, you may be bonded to someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder traits. Borderline Personality Disorder is what it sounds like it is: it’s a personality disorder. Take the […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: My marriage of 33 years has lost its sexual vitality. We are having occasional sex, but it’s no longer magical, or even special. Could address the question of what a man can do if he wants to infuse his marriage with a […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been married for 19 years and have three children. My husband has been unfaithful for most of our married life. I was going to divorce him four years ago, but he came chasing after me when he realized it wasn’t going to work with his flame. I took him back and stopped […]
Dear Neil: I have been involved with a man for two years. After four months of intense dating and heavy pursuit on his part, he asked me to marry him. I said “yes,” believing this to be a whirlwind courtship and somewhat of a Cinderella fairytale. I was 34 years old and had never been […]