Note: This is the second of a two-part series Many couples get stuck in patterns of unproductive fighting, complaining and blaming each other. If you are wanting to solve fights and conflicts from ruining the intimacy in your relationship, try the following suggestions: Become a student of your own anger by logging the events that […]
Resolving Money ConflictsResolving Money Conflicts Well
Do you tend to believe that money leads to happiness, fulfillment, contentment? Do you buy things for yourself or others regardless of whether you have enough money to pay for these purchases? When you feel deprived or unloved, does buying yourself something seem like your first recourse? Do you often think wistfully about all the […]
Power Struggles Over Money Threaten Relationship
Dear Neil: My husband and I are in a sharp disagreement about how to handle money. We both work full time, but he brings in considerably more income than I do. Because he earns more and supports us, he feels he should be able to decide how and where our money is spent. This has […]
Control Freaks
Dear Neil: What can you tell me about people who are “control freaks,” those people who need to control their children and their partners? Wellington, New Zealand Dear Wellington: There are two kinds of power. The first is POWER OVER. The other is PERSONAL POWER. POWER OVER shows up as control and dominance: someone expects […]
Power Struggles
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]
Controlling Behavior Hurts Intimacy
“I am living with a woman who is very controlling,” writes Craig G. from Miami. “When I don’t agree with her or do things the way she wants me to, she gets furious at me, threatens to have an affair, screams, pouts and withdraws sex. Why does she do this?” How do you attempt to […]