Creating The Best Relationship You Can What can you do to create the best relationship possible? A close, intimate, happy, heartful, soulful, romantic, connected, affectionate and passionate relationship? I am talking about creating—not simply having—the best relationship possible, because while falling in love just happens, staying in love never happens by itself. We begin our […]
Outrageously Romantic Ideas to Keep Your Relationship Sizzling
What does sizzling romance consist of? Romance is about attempting to connect and stay connected to someone else. If you are a true romantic, you define yourself as a “lover” regardless of other roles; you’re in touch with your feelings; you pursue new and different experiences and you make your intimate relationship a top priority […]
Strategies For Meeting Strangers
You’re at the grocery store checkout, waiting in line C, when you spot a vibrant brunette waiting in line A. You’d love to meet her, but how? You’re at the tenant’s association meeting and you see someone who is hot, hot, hot. Is he married? Living with or involved with someone? Do you ask him, […]
Love Will Not Work With a “Guarded Heart”
Dear Neil: Exactly what is love? I have been hurt several times in the past in my relationships with men, so in my most recent relationship I kept myself safe and a bit withdrawn. But he rejected me, saying I was too guarded. I guess I don’t know what love is, and I don’t know […]
Signs Your Mate is Cheating on You
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Telltale Signs Your Mate is Cheating on You
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Evaluating Whether Someone is Right For Me
Dear Neil: I am recently divorced and back on the market looking for a woman to give my heart to. But after two divorces, I am wondering if there are any ways of evaluating someone before I get emotionally invested with her. Are there ways to tell whether two people will be compatible with each […]
Overcoming Fear
Dear Neil: I have some fears that I’m having a hard time coping with. The first thing that I’m afraid of is failing in my relationship with my boyfriend of five months. I have a history of my relationships with guys failing, and I really want this one to work out. Secondly, my mom and […]
Avoiding The Christmas Blues (Part 2)
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Some people find that holiday depression feeds on itself. In the beginning, they are unhappy for a specific reason. Then they are upset at themselves for being unhappy at Christmas. And they may also resent the real or imagined pressure from […]
Avoiding The Christmas Blues (Part 1)
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two You are riding through the snowy New England countryside in a sleigh pulled by a magnificent team of Clydesdale horses. The only sounds you hear are the hooffalls of the horses, the creaking of harnesses and the ringing of sleigh bells. […]