“Could you write about how to deal with either ugly remarks or looks from people?” writes a woman from rural Colorado. “I have a disfiguring disorder (neurofibromatosis) [and have] masses of small tumors on my face, neck, arms and all over. “In winter, I can hide most of them (long sleeves, turtle necks, etc.) but […]
Unfaithful
There are several types of affairs people engage in, and not all infidelities are the same. Serial affairs consist of a series of one night stands and/or a series of brief affairs, says Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris in their book Surviving Infidelity. Intimacy and commitment are missing in such affairs. Sex and excitement are […]
Adultery: Surviving Infidelity
“Last month I came home from a business trip earlier than expected, and walked in on my wife making love with another man,” writes a reader from Montreal, Canada. “I cannot describe the thoughts and feelings that have emerged for me since. I feel hurt and betrayed. I feel angry. I have contemplated suicide. I’ve […]
Enriching Your Intimate Relationship
We know that Valentine’s Day has been observed for over five hundred years, but there is evidence that it has been associated with lovers from as early as 269 A.D. February 15th was an ancient pagan holiday that represented spring (February fell in springtime in the Julian Calendar, which was used before the 16th century). […]
What is Love?
If there is such a thing as heaven on earth, the passionate attachment that we call love is as close as we get to transcending normal reality and lifting our hearts and spirits to a higher dimension. People who are in love are literally high on life. It is not always so simple to distinguish […]
Dishonesty and Trust
“I often catch John in little ‘white lies.’ His lies are often about stupid things and really amount to nothing, but it really bothers me that he would feel the need to lie to me rather than tell the truth,” writes a woman from Aurora, Colorado. “He is not an accomplished liar, and eventually the truth […]
Sexual Attraction
“My husband is of a stocky build which I thought was okay when we married. However, after 17 years and another 50-60 pounds, I find him totally unattractive,” writes Sharon R. of Denver. “I still love him, but the feelings seem purely platonic. This problem has progressed to the point that in order to enjoy […]
Woman Puzzled by Men Not Calling Back
“I’m 39, attractive, nice body—I’m told—friendly, helpful, yet when I find someone and we go out, the night ends with the usual line, ‘I’ll call you,’ and they never do,” writes an anonymous woman from Denver. “Then I rehash the night’s events in my mind: was I overbearing, too independent, etc. I have a good […]
Older Women/Younger Men Relationships
“I am a 48 year old woman. I have a very satisfying, loving relationship with a 35 year old man,” writes an anonymous woman from rural Colorado. “[We] have recently been discussing marriage, but I am concerned about a long term commitment. Have you any direct knowledge of the success of such relationships?” There is […]
Seeker-Sought
“[My wife] says that she no longer loves me, does not trust me, and does not want to be around me. It is under these conditions that I am trying to salvage the marriage,” writes a reader from rural Wisconsin. “I have made what I feel are positive steps toward our future together, [and] I […]