“I’m 39, attractive, nice body—I’m told—friendly, helpful, yet when I find someone and we go out, the night ends with the usual line, ‘I’ll call you,’ and they never do,” writes an anonymous woman from Denver. “Then I rehash the night’s events in my mind: was I overbearing, too independent, etc. I have a good […]
Older Women/Younger Men Relationships
“I am a 48 year old woman. I have a very satisfying, loving relationship with a 35 year old man,” writes an anonymous woman from rural Colorado. “[We] have recently been discussing marriage, but I am concerned about a long term commitment. Have you any direct knowledge of the success of such relationships?” There is […]
Seeker-Sought
“[My wife] says that she no longer loves me, does not trust me, and does not want to be around me. It is under these conditions that I am trying to salvage the marriage,” writes a reader from rural Wisconsin. “I have made what I feel are positive steps toward our future together, [and] I […]
Desires
Get a group of all women (or all men) sitting around and talking about the subject of what you would like the opposite sex to do differently, or what puzzles you about their behavior and how you would like it changed, and you would have the potential to spend many long hours in deep conversation. […]
Men vs. Women
In case anyone didn’t know, men and women speak different languages. Occasionally, the differences generate anger. The following letters from readers will illustrate some of the areas of tension between the sexes. “Mainly, [men] just don’t make an effort,” writes Sandra S. from Milwaukee. “I am so tired of helping men to grow emotionally. They […]
Rekindling Love
Falling Out of Love “Three years ago, [my husband] became depressed, and criticized our home, our life; everything was wrong,” writes an anonymous woman from Christchurch, New Zealand. “I kept quiet but became hurt and resentful. I felt used and unloved. I have heard enough of comments such as ‘grow a brain,’ ‘you’re full of […]
Preconceptions of Marriage
How Marriage Changes a Relationship “My husband and I have been married ten months. Prior to our marriage he was very active sexually with me,” writes a woman from Milwaukee. “On our honeymoon, my husband did not initiate sex once. He [has now] progressed to jerking away if I touch him and making comments such […]
Measuring Your Love Life
What is your sex life like? How do you feel about sex and your own sexual health and well-being? Some surprising, interesting and revealing findings have recently come out about people’s sexual attitudes, values and practices. According to the recently published Janis Report on Sexual Behavior, did you know that: Men 65 and older are […]
Defeating Jealousy
What is your reaction to the following situations: Your intimate partner spends increasingly more time in outside activities and hobbies in which you are not included. Your partner comments to you on how attractive another person is. At a party, your partner dances with someone you do not know. Someone flirts with your partner. Your […]
When Your Relationship Fails
The following questions, gleaned from Daphne Rose Kingma’s book Coming Apart (Fawcett Crest Publications) are designed to assist you in gaining greater awareness of why your relationship failed. These exercises are designed for you, not for you to send to your ex-partner. On paper, tell the story of how your relationship began. Where did you meet, what […]