Dear Neil: I’m a 40-something religious woman with a strong, rural upbringing. The friendship I have with one man is a wonderful thing for both of us, but I want more than that with him. He doubts he’ll ever get married again. But he is such a compassionate, caring and understanding person that it seems […]
Making Love When You Don’t Feel Like It
Dear Neil: Would you write about the dilemma of having sex when you don’t feel like it? I am in a relationship where my boyfriend has a much higher sexual appetite than I do. Since he gets upset and angry if we don’t make love, I find myself giving in and having more sex with […]
Sitting on the Fence Just Keeps You Stuck
Dear Neil: I am in a four year relationship with a woman I live with, but have been unwilling to commit to. She isn’t the kind of person I thought I’d permanently wind up with. She isn’t a college educated professional. She doesn’t communicate well, and she is extremely emotional. But she is caring, sensitive […]
Searching for Nurturance
Taking vs. Giving in a Relationship Dear Neil: When is it going to be my turn? My wife is busy at work during the day, then comes home and pours all of her time and energy into taking care of the children. That would be fine, except that then she’s typically too tired for me—even […]
Rejection Can Be Hard to Deal With
Rejectors and Rejectees Have Different Dynamics Dear Neil: On meeting my ex-partner eight months after our short but intense relationship ended, I found that although I had worked through the cycle of shock and bitterness, she was still mired in anger and insult. I was given no explanation at the time of our break up […]
Being Safe at the Expense of Being Happy
Dear Neil: Eight years ago I walked out on a very special man: my lover, best friend, protector and provider. It seemed the perfect relationship. Only now do I realize that he loved me unconditionally. Walking through Hyde Park, my reasons for leaving hit me in the face: I was so scared that one day […]
Don’t Settle For Poor Treatment From Husband
Escalating The Emotions in Your Marriage Dear Neil: My husband thinks that once every month or two is often enough for sex. He told me he was “getting older” (mid-40’s) and that it was normal for a man to lose interest at that age. I found out quite by accident that he hasn’t lost interest, […]
Survival Rules for Single Middle-Aged Women
Dear Neil: The following is what I’d call a survival guide for middle-aged women in search of a date. In younger years we could date men of all ages, while the boys were pretty much stuck with girls their own age or younger. The rules are different now, and we have to accept it. Take […]
Problems Men Have With Women
A Primer for Women Money, poor communication, children, infidelity, control and sexual incompatibility are the top issues that cause men the most conflict and turmoil in their intimate relationships with women. The men around the world who read this column, and who have written in have talked about their relationships with women. This is what […]
Where Do I Meet Women?
Man Finds it Difficult to Find a Mate Dear Neil: I am a 32 year old single professional male, both handsome and physically fit. I have a thirst for knowledge and adventure. My interests are varied and include aerobics, movies, the arts, traveling, sports and dining out. Where does an upwardly mobile man meet his […]