Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: I am going to be 45, and I can’t seem to move past my issues. I basically feel I am not good enough. I was a baby when my parents divorced. My initial issues with not being good enough […]
How do you respond when someone says: “My Mother passed away yesterday,” or “I just got laid off of my job?” How about when you hear: “My breast cancer has come back,” or “My husband dumped me for a younger woman?” What do you say when someone shares information that leaves many of us tongue […]
Dear Neil: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three and a half years (we are 22 and 21 respectively). We have had a great relationship, and now we feel like we’re ready to take another step. But I am a college student still living at home, and he has started his […]
Dear Neil: I need help. I’m in a 9 year relationship with my boyfriend, and we have a 5 year old child. We have broken up a bunch of times. Every time things are OK and we are not yelling or fighting with each other, I do something to rock the boat. We both have […]
Dear Neil: I am interested in your views of people staying in contact with their ex’s while in a new relationship. I have been dating a man for 5 months, and he believes it is fine to stay in contact and visit occasionally with his ex-partners. He says they are now “friends.” I feel that […]
You may know it’s not easy to meet someone new who romantically interests you, especially if you are over 40. You also may know that it is difficult to connect, bond, deepen a relationship and fall in love—even when you do find a promising romantic partner. So how do you go from a first date […]
Following is a continuation of the discussion of why people today have a hard time meeting, connecting, bonding and falling in love: Some men and women compare several potential partners against each other, and frequently wind up not being able to make up their minds. They tend to have commitment issues, and often have their […]
Following is a partial summary of why people today have a hard time meeting, connecting, bonding and falling in love: Think carefully. Out of a hundred single available potential partners in your age range, how many do you think you’ll be attracted to? Out of the ones you’re attracted to, how many of those do […]
Dear Neil: Since my divorce, my parents have had nothing to do with me. They were distant with us before the divorce, never attempting to make contact or visiting, and being curt when I rang them. I have chosen to be friends with my ex-mother-in-law (who they despise), and in a nutshell my parents and […]
Dear Neil: Would you write about abusive relationships and how to avoid them? Concerned in Denver Dear Concerned: Here are some of the key early warning signs of an abuser: Possessiveness and jealousy. Does your partner demand that the two of you go everywhere together, and that you should not be alone, interact with other […]