Answer the following questions True (T) or False (F): When we argue or fight, I don’t just talk, I also listen to my partner’s side of the story (T/F) When we argue, I will stay on the subject and I don’t tend to bring other issues up (T/F) In a fight or disagreement, I tend […]
Dear Neil: I was in a loveless marriage for years. My wife had sex with me less than once a year for 13 years, although we did make three children together. At one point, there was 5 years with no sexual intimacy at all. After years of me requesting that we get therapy, which she […]
There are so many ways of detaching and disengaging in a relationship that we’re not always conscious of when we are doing it. Here is a list of some of the most common ways people disconnect from each other: Making your intimate partner a lower priority in your life. If you do this, your partner […]
Does this happen in your relationship? One person (let’s say it’s you) makes a request of your intimate partner. Maybe you want help with cleaning or straightening up the house. Perhaps you feel your partner is following the car in front of you on the highway too closely, and want him/her to back off a […]
Dear Neil: I have just discovered that my wife of two years has had what she is calling “an affair of the heart” with someone else. She assures me that they haven’t sexually consummated the relationship, and says she doesn’t love him, but says they have grown very close and emotionally intimate. She says that […]
Through the years as a marriage therapist, I have been asked a countless number of times: “We were so wild about each other. So much in love. So passionate. How could we have possibly grown this cold and distant from each other?” There are a variety of answers to the above question. Below are the […]
X-rated porn sites, just like X-rated movies, can enhance a couple’s sex life by providing visual stimulation and an outlet for unacted upon sexual fantasies. Some women want their men to visit porn sites—the more the merrier—because those women don’t want sex with their men, and they hope that the porn sites will relieve them […]
Many people come to marriage therapists because of a betrayal or an infidelity. How do you repair a betrayal? How does a woman in the position of Hillary Clinton grow to trust and respect her husband again? It is difficult to have a long-term, vital love relationship with someone that you don’t think is operating […]