If you are seriously contemplating divorce, here are some questions for you to explore beforehand: Is there something you’re wanting your spouse to do (or quit doing) in order for you to stay? If so, have you clearly articulated what it is? If you haven’t, it is vital you do so, because nobody is a […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been with a man for 21 months, but our relationship has been a constant roller coaster. He has issues with drinking, lying and keeping things from me. He has admitted to living like he was a single man while he’s been with me. Every fight he blames me for, throws a tantrum […]
Dear Neil: My boyfriend and I have recently been having communication issues, and he suggested “taking a break.” What exactly does it mean to take a break? We talked about seeing other people and figuring out where each of us is headed. He also suggested we could get together in a month to talk about […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one The following are a continuation of the guidelines for how to decide which of your issues are deal breakers—and when you’d be better off leaving a relationship instead of staying in it: When you feel poorly treated. Poor treatment can come in many […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: You usually write about how people can stay together and work out their differences. But what about when it may not be in your self-interest to stay, or when you have an extremely unresponsive, uncaring or hurtful partner? Could […]
Note: This is the third of a three-part series. This is the conclusion of a series of questions designed to assist you in determining whether you should stay in or leave a relationship: Would you lose anything important in your life if your partner were no longer your partner? Is what you’d lose something that […]
Note: This is the second of a three-part series. This is a continuation of a step-by-step guide to help you determine whether you should stay in or leave a relationship: Stepping back from any temporary anger or disappointment, do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to like you? If it’s clear […]
Note: This is the first of a three-part series. How and when does one decide to leave a relationship that is no longer working, and what are the implications of making such a decision? “I have lived the past 25 years with my husband in a loveless relationship,” writes a woman from Milwaukee. “I grew […]