Withdrawal and Disconnection

Feeling a bit disengaged or withdrawn in your relationship recently?   Don’t feel badly.  Most people do. Everyone—no matter how close or intimate, and no matter how much you may love each other—sometimes feels disconnected from the people they love and are devoted to.  Let’s face it:  living with someone—or being around someone a lot—can really […]

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Living Parallel Lives

Have you ever wondered how committed couples begin to fall apart?  Typically one person gets preoccupied at work, or with the kids, or with day-to-day living or with worries.  The other person gradually notices the partner/spouse/lover is more preoccupied and less emotionally present, and unconsciously adjusts his/her own emotional presence to match. This is subtle […]

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Rekindling Love

Falling Out of Love “Three years ago, [my husband] became depressed, and criticized our home, our life; everything was wrong,” writes an anonymous woman from Christchurch, New Zealand.  “I kept quiet but became hurt and resentful.  I felt used and unloved.  I have heard enough of comments such as ‘grow a brain,’ ‘you’re full of […]

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