Dear Neil: I have been with my partner for three years. In the beginning, our love making was great, but as time went on she stopped giving herself to me on a regular basis. I now get sex once a month, if I’m lucky. It seems related to money, because the more I make, the […]
Healing From a Breakup
Dear Neil: Last May I lost my boyfriend of the past four years. Our relationship wasn’t going anywhere, because he just couldn’t give me what I wanted and needed. I tried my best and it failed. I am writing to you because I am feeling very alone and lonely, and I am hoping you could […]
Can This Relationship Be Saved?
Dear Neil: I recently wrote to you saying my husband is having an emotional affair. You advised me in the paper to explore why our relationship has grown distant, and what we could do to rekindle the spark between us. But my husband no longer wants to try. He says we can’t recapture what we […]
Do People Who Are Adopted Have Trouble Loving?
Dear Neil: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We just broke up because he is adopted and he has issues loving someone. I don’t know what to say to him to convince him that I love him and I’m not going anywhere. I could care less that he’s adopted but he can’t […]
My Boyfriend’s Rejection is Confusing
Dear Neil: I’ve been in a relationship with someone for three years. My boyfriend says that I don’t deserve to be with someone who is so up and down with his feelings. He says he loves me and is in love with me, but can’t stay because he doesn’t deserve me. He still wants me […]
How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back?
Dear Neil: I am 26 years-old and for the first time in my life I have felt true love with another. But he has broken up with me and left me an emotional and financial train wreck of a mess. The problem is that he compared me to his ex, and accused me of doing […]
What Can You Do if Someone Says They Want to Break Up?
Dear Neil: I have been in the most wonderful, loving relationship for the past two years. We connected shortly after her marriage dissolved. I have never been so much in love or so happy. I respect her, I adore her and I cherish her beyond belief. The bond and connection we made was amazing. But […]
Can My Boyfriend Overcome Commitment Phobia?
Dear Neil: I am in a new relationship—four weeks long only. I am female, 34, separated, very attractive and I have a good job. A month ago I got to chatting with a gorgeous man at a bar. He swept me off my feet, and it took one date before we were absolutely obsessed with […]
How Do I Heal Losing My Husband?
Dear Neil: After losing my husband of 28 years, I started dating again eleven months later. The gentleman and I got close, he asked me to marry him, and I said yes. Then I went into grieving for my husband. It’s as if there was a physical drive to get together, but my heart put […]
Why Intimate Relationships End
Dear Neil: My boyfriend abruptly ended our two year relationship. No real explanation was offered—just that he decided that I wasn’t the one. There was no discussion about what went into his decision, or what he was thinking or feeling about me—or about us. But I’m sure we both loved and cared about each other. […]