Anytime we go through a genuine crisis, our intimate relationships with other people—your spouse or sweetheart, children, family and friends—are affected. Whether those relationships help us through the crisis, or instead go down in flames depends on a host of factors, most of which are within our control. People in crisis find it difficult to […]
It’s an awkward position. I’m a relationship columnist, but I find myself wanting to write about the loss of my house through a recent forest fire. That fire not only destroyed my house, but the houses of 168 other of my mountain neighbors, including 10 of my most immediate neighbors. The events since the fire […]
How People Regenerate Themselves How do you handle severe life trauma and adversity? What traumas, experiences or woundings have been major life lessons or wakeup calls for you? Which woundings have been the hardest to recover from? Following are recommendations about how people overcome major loss so that they can regenerate themselves: Focus on what’s […]
Everyone gets bad breaks: that’s part of life. But people who experience a major trauma—the loss of someone very close, rape or assault, a major accident or disease, a major calamity and especially a catastrophic fire like I recently experienced—frequently feel their sense of control over their lives, and the vision they held of their […]