Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: My issue is to try to understand the negative feelings I have toward my mother and how to best let them go. I constantly find myself annoyed with anything she suggests. Often she begins with “you should,” which immediately […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one If you ask a room full of grown women what they think about men and sex, you are likely to get an earful. At various times, you will likely hear them complain about men and their sexual behaviors and attitudes. You […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: Some time ago you wrote a very impressive article entitled “Secrets Every Man Should Know.” I still have a copy in my possession. In it was advice you offered men about how to be effective in their relationships with […]
Dear Neil: I grew up believing I had to be strong. I had a difficult childhood and grew up really fast. I never received the nurturance I needed, but I often took care of other family members. I believed I was very strong, but now I realize I am very guarded. I survived my childhood […]
What am I grateful for? It’s a funny subject for me to choose to write about. Three months ago, I lost my home in a forest fire—and with it just about everything I own. So why in the world would I choose to write on what I’m grateful for when I have so much to […]
Are you controlling? Have control/power issues been a big part of your history—either with you feeling controlled by others or by others accusing you of being controlling? You may not realize that your need for power is why previous intimate partner’s have left you in the past—or why one is resisting you in the present. […]
Dear Neil: I lost my beautiful 18 year old daughter two years ago. She was killed in a car accident. I find myself increasingly more and more bitter as the months and years go by. I know my life will never be the same, but I am unprepared at how overwhelmed I continue to be […]
Intentionally or not, might you employ sabotaging behaviors in your intimate relationships? Take this quiz to find out. Rate your answers on a scale from 1 to 5, in which 1 = never; 2 = sometimes; 3 = half the time; 4 = often, and 5 = always. This quiz is courtesy of Randi Gunther […]
Dear Neil: I have been disloyal to the man I care about, and am finding it difficult to know how to regain his trust. I had reached an emotionally low ebb, and unloaded my frustrations and disenchantments to a business partner of his. I accused him of being a narcissist, untruthful, incapable of loving and […]
It’s an awkward position. I’m a relationship columnist, but I find myself wanting to write about the loss of my house through a recent forest fire. That fire not only destroyed my house, but the houses of 168 other of my mountain neighbors, including 10 of my most immediate neighbors. The events since the fire […]