Dear Neil: Five years ago, when husband’s ADHD/bi-polar son started acting out, I was so exhausted after working all day and then dealing with his son that I had no desire for lovemaking. After about a year and a half without intimacy, one night was all it took and I became pregnant. The pregnancy lasted […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been in an on-and-off again relationship with a man I have two children with. I love him dearly and I want to be with him. But he wants to leave in order to determine what he really wants from our relationship and how he feels about me. He’s having a hard time […]
Dear Neil: What causes some people to cheat multiple times with multiple partners, or to cheat habitually? Can a person who habitually cheats also love his/her spouse? Infidelity changes a person into someone who is deceitful, foolish, cold and calculated. What is that person’s point of view? How do I overcome these feelings that have […]
Dear Neil: I have just discovered that my wife of two years has had what she is calling “an affair of the heart” with someone else. She assures me that they haven’t sexually consummated the relationship, and says she doesn’t love him, but says they have grown very close and emotionally intimate. She says that […]
Dear Neil: Please discuss the issue of infidelity within a committed relationship. Why do people do it, why is it often more men that do it than women, and can a pattern of repeat infidelity be broken? Curious in Wellington, New Zealand Dear Curious: Researchers don’t have reliable statistics on how many women are unfaithful, […]
Dear Neil: I was dating the most wonderful girl in the world. The only girl who I have thought about being with for the rest of my life. She was the best thing that ever happened to me—and I cheated on her. I don’t know why I cheated, but I did. I am twenty-three and […]
Let’s face it: it’s pretty easy to be tempted. Attractive strangers, hot co-workers, charming business associates, sexy acquaintances. We have lots of possibilities to have multiply affairs all around us if we wish to be tempted. So why do some stray when others don’t? Take this quiz, courtesy of Pepper Schwartz in The Lifetime Love […]
Dear Neil: Can you help me let go of my love for my ex-husband? When I finally discovered that he had been having not one, but two affairs with women along his mailman route, I honestly felt like my world collapsed. Can you help me understand why someone would need to do that? He portrayed […]
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]