Dear Neil: Not long ago you wrote an article regarding moving on from tragedy. Two years ago, I was with my son Ashley having a few drinks while visiting New Zealand. Ashley had a bit too much to drink, and when he said he was going to go back to his room, I took his […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. This is a continuation of the questions designed to assist you in learning the lessons from a relationship ending. These questions come from Karen Kahn Wilson in her book Transformational Divorce (New Harbinger Publications): How did you handle the differences between you and your ex? Differences […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: I am ending a 25 year marriage with a man I have spent my entire adult life with. I wanted to be a stay at home Mom, but because he couldn’t keep a job, I had to work most of those years. I have […]
So your relationship didn’t work out the way you had hoped, and you and your intimate partner have now broken up. How many adults can say that they’ve been through at least one intimate love relationship that didn’t stand the test of time? If you have recently ended a relationship, or if you are currently […]
Dear Neil: I have been married for 32 years. My wife wants nothing to do with me, and for the past two years has been sleeping in another room. She gives me the silent treatment until I can’t stand it anymore. It’s been more than a year since we’ve had any intimacy or have even […]
The following is a continuation of the reasons (or excuses) people often give when breaking up, and explanation of what those reasons mean—and what, if anything, you can do about it. What Is Said: “You’re not the person I married.” What It Really Means: It’s probably true. None of us stay the same over time: […]
Dear Neil: What does it mean when a man calls me “needy?” I am in my 40’s and have been in several relationships through the years where the men in my life have accused me of being too needy. But I am confused about what “too needy” means. Am I not supposed to lean on […]
Dear Neil: I have been with my partner for three years. In the beginning, our love making was great, but as time went on she stopped giving herself to me on a regular basis. I now get sex once a month, if I’m lucky. It seems related to money, because the more I make, the […]
Dear Neil: Last May I lost my boyfriend of the past four years. Our relationship wasn’t going anywhere, because he just couldn’t give me what I wanted and needed. I tried my best and it failed. I am writing to you because I am feeling very alone and lonely, and I am hoping you could […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been in an on-and-off again relationship with a man I have two children with. I love him dearly and I want to be with him. But he wants to leave in order to determine what he really wants from our relationship and how he feels about me. He’s having a hard time […]