Dear Neil: My girlfriend is on her iPhone almost all the time when we’re together. When we’re in a restaurant, she checks her Facebook account; in a movie theater, she texts her friends; at a social gathering or party, she repeatedly checks her emails; at her family dinner she is on Twitter while everyone else […]
Dear Neil: I’m in a two-year long-distance relationship, and we got engaged four months ago. But my fiance has become detached, and may have cold feet. We set a date one year out for our wedding. Then he became very stressed (finishing his masters degree, work, finances, etc.). So he postponed the date, and wants […]
Dear Neil: I am in a long-term mostly happy marriage with my husband of 17 years, but there is no sexual juice at all between us. In virtually every other respect our relationship is wonderful: we love and care about each other, we are financially doing OK, we ‘re good parents together, we’re very compatible, […]
Dear Neil: I have a daughter with my on-and-off-again boyfriend of three years. On one of our off times, he got another girl pregnant, and I am struggling with that. I have tried to be supportive, but it is hard because I feel so betrayed. It is the cause of most of our fights, and […]
Dear Neil: Not long ago you wrote an article regarding moving on from tragedy. Two years ago, I was with my son Ashley having a few drinks while visiting New Zealand. Ashley had a bit too much to drink, and when he said he was going to go back to his room, I took his […]
Dear Neil: I am a 36 year old single woman who has never married. I have dated literally hundreds of men from all walks of life—from professionals, to artists, to ski bums, to doctors and to performers—and a whole lot of other men who don’t neatly fit into an easy category. But every man I’ve […]
Dear Neil: I read your recent article about willful blindness, and it brings up an issue I am grappling with in my marriage. I have expectations which are not being met, and I’ve been ignoring a variety of behaviors. My husband and I have virtually no intimacy whatsoever. Other than eating together and watching TV […]
Have you ever wondered why we have the tendency to ignore or deny truths until they overwhelm us? Whether it involves charges leveled at the Catholic Church for the behavior of some of their priests and bishops, or the question about why ordinary Germans didn’t stop Hitler from atrocities against mankind, or how Bernie Madoff […]
Quick. Think for a moment. How much well-being do you feel at this juncture of your life? Would you say that you are flourishing in certain aspects of your life? Which ones? Felicia Huppert and Timothy So of the University of Cambridge define flourishing as having: 1) positive emotions, 2) engagement/deep interest in something, 3) […]
Dear Neil: My wife and I divorced 3 years ago, and since then my children (ages 15, 12 and 10) will have almost nothing to do with me. My ex-wife now hates me, and makes me appear to be evil, which I’m not. I was a doting dad, and I did everything I could to […]