Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two We all know that it feels more intimate to be connected to the person (or people) we care about and love. Much less understood is how a couple who starts out with lots of love, erotic energy and hope—lose their close […]
Most satisfied couples will tell you that friendship is the most important ingredient in their relationship. Think for a moment of a person that you would call a good friend–someone other than your partner–and see how many of the following statements apply to that relationship. Put a check mark beside the statement if it applies. […]
May Not Be Worth It Dear Neil: I’ve been involved in a relationship with a woman who is 25, and has a three year old daughter. In the span of our relationship she has flip-flopped back and forth on a decision of whether to be in a relationship with me. Today she could be talking […]
Dear Neil: I got out of a ten year relationship, and five months later got into another one. After four months, I decided to take a chance and we moved in together. I have three children, two of which are teenagers, and there are expenses, house cleaning chores and cooking needs—none of which my new […]
Dear Neil: Almost universally you’ll hear women say they want a guy with a “good sense of humor.” What exactly does that mean? Am I supposed to be cracking jokes all day long? I tend to be on the serious side. What am I supposed to do? Not Understanding in Longmont, Colorado Dear Not Understanding: […]
Dear Neil: I have been dating a guy for four months. He has never been married. He’s 43 and I’m 42. He seems to be a taker, and it feels as if he wants a part-time girlfriend. He says he doesn’t want a mother, but sure is OK with me doing all of his domestic […]
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be romantic. A day for lovers. A day set aside to wine and dine, woo, seduce and celebrate the one person you’re closest to. But reality doesn’t always work as smoothly as it’s supposed to, and sometimes couples have nasty arguments, blow-out fights, withdraw from each other, withhold sex and/or […]
Dear Neil: I’m having much difficulty in believing my sick significant other. When we dated, he told me all about his past problems with drugs and alcohol. I was given to understand that he’d been in recovery for years. He moved in with me last year, and I immediately learned he was using pain killers […]
Dear Neil: What makes a person—namely a man—become emotionally unavailable? Why do men seem to value being emotionally available far less than women? What are some things a man could do to overcome being emotionally unavailable? Hurt in New York Dear Hurt: I get so many questions from readers about this subject that repeating some […]
Dear Neil: Please help me understand what happened to my marriage. In the beginning of our relationship, we were so close with each other: we spent huge amount of time talking, going to movies and new restaurants, traveling, sharing hopes and dreams, romancing each other, continually making love. We were always affectionate—touching each other, holding […]